Finally heading home

Wow, I’ve been traveling for most of the past week and a half. Aside from a brief stop back in Seattle between IndieWeb Summit and visiting San Francisco for family gatherings, I’ve mostly been away from home since June 28. Yikes. I didn’t really get to see a lot of friends on the San Francisco side of things (although I had some good times with my brother and my friend Mark) but that’s okay, since I got a lot of stuff done on Publ. Or, specifically, on Authl, the authentication layer, and the Publ integration with it. I have sign-in by email, IndieLogin, and Mastodon working! I will also probably add direct auth for IndieAuth at some point, now that I know how easy it is to implement an OAuth basic authentication flow. Hopefully soon I’ll have friends-only entries going up on this site! Pain-wise I’ve been doing a lot better. I’ve been tapering off the nortriptyline, but I’ve been taking magnesium supplements. I still hit a crash point in the evening pretty easily, so it’s not like this has, like, solved everything, but it’s at least doing more for me than the nortriptyline alone was. I’m currently at 20mg and taper down to 10mg tonight, so this is where I’ll probably start to see if it really was a placebo early on. Gender-wise, something rather interesting has been happening this trip: I’ve been going into the men’s room as usual (because when I travel and am in “boy mode” clothing I don’t want to cause a panic), and pretty much every time, someone’s taken it upon themselves to point out that I was in the men’s room and redirected me to the women’s room. At the same time, I still keep getting “sir"ed a lot, although I don’t know how much of that is people changing their mental alignment for me after they hear my voice. (Probably a lot.) I don’t feel like my appearance has changed at all over the past year, so I dunno what’s going on there. Also gender-wise, a lot of people have been respecting the use of she/her pronouns for me, and that just feels… off. Still. I think I’m back to thinking of they/them as my primary pronoun. Honestly, the main reason I switched to she/her was because if I was requesting they/them, people would just treat it as unspecified and still default to he/him. I think my way of specifying pronouns is going to switch to "they/them, but she/her is fine.” Because if someone’s going to misgender me I’d rather it go to the femme side of things. And a really cute thing happened at my nephew’s 1st birthday party: Camille, one of my nieces (who just turned 6 yesterday), wanted to get to know me better, and the first question she asked me was, “Are you a he, a she, or a they?” And I sort of fumbled over things and I eventually said “it depends but ‘they’ and she are ‘fine.’” Anyway, I wonder where she picked that up from. Wherever it was, it fills me with hope for the future. It’s also what got my mind grinding away about, like, which situations call for which pronouns. I think generally it’s they/them for folks my age or younger, and she/her for folks who are stuck in their ways regarding “proper” English. Anyway, I guess that’s all for now. Unless something else occurs to me in the next hour fifteen minutes, apparently before my flight boards. Edit: oh yeah, I think I need to switch to a backpack as my only conveyance. They’re kind of cumbersome for keys and wallet and stuff but purses are heavy and lopsided, and having both a backpack and a small purse is really awkward. My current backpack is great for just carrying my laptop to work but it’s garbo for actually organizing all my needs. My larger purse carries my iPad and all my other regular needs but it hurts my back after a whole day of using it. Any recommendations for better backpacks (ideally ones which are femmy and have room for an iPad, a laptop, some sketchbooks, and makeup et al) would be appreciated. Edit 2: oh and another thing: fuck all the plastic straw bans, seriously. I’m gonna start just carrying my own plastic straws with me everywhere. I swear, people see one injured sea turtle and suddenly all people with disabilities and sensory issues just get completely thrown under the bus… Edit 3: oh god only 4 weeks until my next big trip why is everything happening all at once
New post: Plaidophile: Finally heading home beesbuzz.biz/blog/4684-Fina…
I'm going!

Whether you’ve already got a personal site, or you’re just getting interested, join us for an IndieWeb Meetup in Brooklyn!

Congrats to Grant on Together v3! We’ve moved out of my GitHub namespace into a new organization. When Grant and I came up with Together back at IWS a few years ago, I had no idea it would get so far, so fast. Proud to have played a small part! - grant.codes/2019/07/08/tog…
Publ: Development Blog: Auth is working nicely publ.beesbuzz.biz/blog/1135-Auth…
I had 1287 emails in my inbox this morning, piled up from 2 weeks post-surgery. Now I'm down to 25 emails, which I suspect will take twice the time to process as the first 1,262.
So from now on, I'll be moving my "work" identity stuff to this account since conflating the two has confused TOO many people. Follow @blackafllc for more of the tech-adjacent stuff esp about social Web work and what not.
Yo yo! black.af is finally on Twitter! Follow us for updates on what's happening on the open Social Web as well as tips and tricks entrepreneurs can take on to expand the...
First time with a personal trainer today. Good form but muscle fatigued too quickly. Plenty of work ahead this summer.
I’m like 10 seconds away from buying ad space on LinkedIn, lol. (v2.jacky.wtf/post/696de90b-…)

I’m like 10 seconds away from buying ad space on LinkedIn, lol.

This song is what I play when delivery comes to my door https://open.spotify.com/track/7mSPhIHj3lUKa11MyJspuV

This song is what I play when delivery comes to my door open.spotify.com/track/7mSPhIHj… (v2.jacky.wtf/post/9a059685-…)

This shit happened to me like 7 years ago. They heard me and someone else talking, let the first person hop and clapped me. https://twitter.com/RosaGoldensohn/status/1148204710404534273

For the longest I was taught (and relearned) that if you use “if” in your apology; you’ve made it conditional and thus any harm you inflicted was still hypothetical to the apologizer. Why do people use “if” when people express that you’ve explicitly done something wrong?

This shit happened to me like 7 years ago. They heard me and someone else talking, let the first person hop and clapped me. https://t.co/XWC4usJiaq (v2.jacky.wtf/post/09fb91c6-…)
Police stand out of sight to try and catch turnstile jumpers after the fact at the Clinton-Washington C stop in Brooklyn.
For the longest I was taught (and relearned) that if you use “if” in your apology; you’ve made it conditional and thus any harm you inflicted was still hypothetical to the apologizer. Why do people use “if” when people _express_ that you’ve explicitly… v2.jacky.wtf/post/d0cf665b-…
Sony wants to retain a whole lotta data on me in exchange for very vague features in their iOS app. They’ll create a complete profile and sync usage data. Not sure if it’s as bad as the Vizio TV-snooping app, but I’ll research further after this flight. musiccenter-cdn.meta.ndmdhs.com/headphones/eul…
I'm pleased to launch Run Your Own Social, a guide book to running a small social network server to replace things like, well, Twitter. This is full of best practices from my year of actually doing this. It's about SOCIAL, not technical, solutions. runyourown.social
I’d get Mario Maker 2 but I still haven’t finished the first one