1. San Diego can have little a fall, as a treat.
2. They took an hour from us but at least I can still enjoy this.
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★★★☆☆Live Wire by Harlan Coben
The plot was kind of average and the reveal at the end seemed far-fetched, but overall an enjoyable read. I picked this one up from a neighborhood Little Free Library because I had read one of Coben’s other books and enjoyed it. I didn’t realize it was part of a series, but it worked alright as a standalone read.
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Finished reading: Live Wire by Harlan Coben (ISBN 9780525952060)
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Joe brought CSS Battle to my attention today. I enjoy CSS but most of my daily work with it is routine stuff like forms, nothing too fancy or creative. I decided to try it out and in true indieweb fashion, I wanted to post the results on my site.
The 2023-11-14 Daily Target seemed like a good chance to brush up on CSS Grid. I got my solution down to 342 characters when minified. I must say it hurt a little to remove the quotation marks on HTML attributes. :]
It looks like the daily target switches over at midnight UTC, so I was too late to submit this today. Still a fun exercise and looking forward to more.
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Yesterday I cracked open XCode for the first time in a few years and did a marathon coding session on my GPS tracker app, Overland! I fixed a backlog of issues and added a few new features!
If you'd like to beta test it before I push out the update, you can join the TestFlight beta here! https://overland.p3k.app/beta
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As predicted, it's only 7pm but i feel like I've been up for 24 hours, probably because I have. PRG-LHR-LAX-PDX-ZZZ😴
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New Uber/Lyft pickup location
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Got here right as my boarding group was called! 😅
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I like this CSS image reset after watching Kevin Powell’s walkthrough.
Also intrigued by the post he linked, “The Ultimate Low-Quality Image Placeholder Technique.”
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"text": "Not my thoughts, for once, but some put together by Craig Mod has he prepares to walk the width of Tokyo (found via Kottke). A lot of what he wrote resonated. I\u2019ve said before that there\u2019s a difference between loneliness and being alone, and between solitude and isolation. While we may differ on definitions (the type of aloneness he describes I\u2019d describe as loneliness), he definitely gets it.\n\n\n\n\nAloneness sucks. It\u2019s insidious and becomes habitual. It\u2019s rapacious. It saps the spirit. It twists a peaceful dude all truculent and paranoid. It renders decision making oddly cumbersome. It\u2019s more difficult to feel elevated as a human when swaddled in aloneness. Self-worth plummets as aloneness rises.\n\n\n\nAnd aloneness as a default is tremendously difficult for some folks to understand.\n\n\n\nFor many, being surrounded by big families or long-term partners is so normalized, that to empathize with someone who is deep in aloneness (which I distinguish from solitude or quietude, more volitional and opted-into states) is akin to imagining what it\u2019s like to fart your way to the moon.\nCraig Mod\n\n\n\n\nAnd then later:\n\n\n\n\nI still feel a deep and terrifying aloneness \u2014 mostly when when I\u2019m worn down. But now I can slightly detach myself from it, tell myself that we\u2019ve felt this before, that we\u2019ve come out of it, and believe in that pending emergence. If I admit to a friend that I\u2019m experiencing these grueling bouts of crushing aloneness, I often get responses like:\u00a0How can\u00a0you\u00a0feel alone?! You have so many people in your corner and support and love and friends!\u00a0This is a terrible response. (But I know well meaning!) Aloneness and depression go hand in hand, and for someone not depressed, the idea of your body weighing ten thousand pounds, of wearing that lead cloak, of not being able to get out of bed in the morning, is unthinkable, unfathomable. So, too, with that sense of aloneness. How can you feel alone? How can you feel so isolated and hopeless?\nCraig Mod\n\n\n\n\nThis is something that I think is important to note: when we say stuff like this, we\u2019re not trying to brush things off as \u201coh, you wouldn\u2019t understand\u201d \u2014 that\u2019s really not the point. The point is that, like so many lived experiences, the reality of the experience is hard to articulate in a way that actually gives enough context for someone who hasn\u2019t experienced it. It\u2019s hard to grok something that is as abstract and arbitrary as feelings and experiences that are almost entirely inside someone else\u2019s head.\n\n\n\nThanks for sharing, Craig. I hope your walk goes really well.",
"html": "<p>Not my thoughts, for once, but some <a href=\"https://craigmod.com/roden/086/\">put together by Craig Mod has he prepares to walk the width of Tokyo</a> (found via <a href=\"https://kottke.org/23/11/0043397-i-dont-really-know-exactl\">Kottke</a>). A lot of what he wrote resonated. I\u2019ve said before that there\u2019s a difference between loneliness and being alone, and between solitude and isolation. While we may differ on definitions (the type of aloneness he describes I\u2019d describe as loneliness), he definitely gets it.</p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote>\n<p>Aloneness sucks. It\u2019s insidious and becomes habitual. It\u2019s rapacious. It saps the spirit. It twists a peaceful dude all truculent and paranoid. It renders decision making oddly cumbersome. It\u2019s more difficult to feel elevated as a human when swaddled in aloneness. Self-worth plummets as aloneness rises.</p>\n\n\n\n<p>And aloneness as a default is tremendously difficult for some folks to understand.</p>\n\n\n\n<p>For many, being surrounded by big families or long-term partners is so normalized, that to empathize with someone who is deep in aloneness (which I distinguish from solitude or quietude, more volitional and opted-into states) is akin to imagining what it\u2019s like to fart your way to the moon.</p>\nCraig Mod\n</blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>And then later:</p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote>\n<p>I still feel a deep and terrifying aloneness \u2014 mostly when when I\u2019m worn down. But now I can slightly detach myself from it, tell myself that we\u2019ve felt this before, that we\u2019ve come out of it, and believe in that pending emergence. If I admit to a friend that I\u2019m experiencing these grueling bouts of crushing aloneness, I often get responses like:\u00a0<em>How can\u00a0<strong>you</strong>\u00a0feel alone?! You have so many people in your corner and support and love and friends!</em>\u00a0This is a terrible response. (But I know well meaning!) Aloneness and depression go hand in hand, and for someone not depressed, the idea of your body weighing ten thousand pounds, of wearing that lead cloak, of not being able to get out of bed in the morning, is unthinkable, unfathomable. So, too, with that sense of aloneness. How can you feel alone? How can you feel so isolated and hopeless?</p>\nCraig Mod\n</blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>This is something that I think is important to note: when we say stuff like this, we\u2019re not trying to brush things off as \u201coh, you wouldn\u2019t understand\u201d \u2014 that\u2019s really not the point. The point is that, like so many lived experiences, the reality of the experience is hard to articulate in a way that actually gives enough context for someone who hasn\u2019t experienced it. It\u2019s hard to grok something that is as abstract and arbitrary as feelings and experiences that are almost entirely inside someone else\u2019s head.</p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thanks for sharing, Craig. I hope your walk goes really well.</p>"
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