The agony of being

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🍎 Deck SE/30 design is coming along

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Fragile Masculinity is Never Ever Satisfied

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        "html": "<p>The extreme ends of performative <a href=\"https://jaredwhite.com/tag/gender\">#gender</a> expressions, for both men and women, are truly pits of despair. Because no matter how much of a woman you are as a woman, you can still be \u201cmore woman\u201d\u2014and the same is true for men. <strong>You are never man enough.</strong> And so you have to be \u201cmore man\u201d and then \u201cmore man\u201d yet again. There\u2019s no end to this Sisyphean loop.</p>\n\n<p>Alas, performative masculinity\u2014particularly its extreme form of <em>fragile masculinity</em> which inevitably leads to <em>toxic masculinity</em>\u2014is quite literally tearing my country \ud83c\uddfa\ud83c\uddf8 apart right now and is infecting business, art, technology, politics, and more across the globe.</p>\n\n<p>A couple of links I want to share with you, the second nicely reinforcing the first.</p>\n\n<p><strong>First:</strong> one of my favorite video essayists, Adam Conover, <a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ol4X6oc-tz8\">produced what I think is one of his best yet titled <strong>Elon and Zuck are INSECURE Men</strong></a>. Adam goes right for it, explaining how so many of the bizarro-world activities we see both Elon Musk and Mark Zuckerberg engaging in\u2014even down to the over-the-top \u201cbro\u201d dress code\u2014are in essence flagrant attempts to prove how manly they are. Their fragile masculinity has metastasized into toxic masculinity, and due to the fact they also happen to be multibillionaires with obscene control over vast swaths of digital commerce and communication, their personal crisis unfortunately affect us all.</p>\n\n<p>The crazy part about all this, as Adam explains and as my next link will prove, is that <strong>it doesn\u2019t work!</strong> Extreme performative masculinity doesn\u2019t work. Outside of the \u201cbro bubble\u201d and weird far-right echo chambers, nobody is looking to these dudes and thinking \u201cayup, that is the kind of man I aspire to be.\u201d These people aren\u2019t men\u2019s men\u2014truly, a man\u2019s man doesn\u2019t look how they look and act like they act.</p>\n\n<p><strong>They are fools.</strong></p>\n\n<p>That\u2019s it. That\u2019s the toot.</p>\n\n<p><strong>Second:</strong> <a href=\"https://techcrunch.com/2025/02/20/mark-zuckerbergs-makeover-didnt-make-people-like-him-study-shows/\">TechCrunch reports on a recent Pew Research Center study</a> which shows that Musk is now viewed unfavorably more than favorably in the U.S.\u2014and Zuck is viewed <em>even more</em> unfavorably, with 67% feeling negatively toward him.</p>\n\n<blockquote>\n  <p>While Zuck may be playing the part of the cool guy, Americans haven\u2019t been fooled by his gold chains or musical ambitions, it seems.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p><em>Ya think?!</em></p>\n\n<p>Look, there\u2019s no doubt that the present-day issues of masculine culture and what it means to be a man\u2014especially for young men with uncertain job prospects and challenges organically making friends and or meeting potential love interests\u2014can be complex and nuanced. Adam\u2019s video makes that point well. It doesn\u2019t do anyone any good to simply shout \u201cMEN SUCK!\u201d and leave it there. There needs to be real and ongoing work done to help men and to counter the toxic narratives which are dominating out there.</p>\n\n<p>At the same time, I also get uncomfortable focusing too much on this topic from a \u201cgendered\u201d perspective. Part of me wants to deconstruct gender performance entirely, <a href=\"https://jaredwhite.com/20241211/post-toxic-masculinity\">as I said in a previous post:</a></p>\n\n<blockquote>\n  <p>My wish is we could spend less time talking about \u201cwhat women should be like\u201d or \u201cwhat men should be like\u201d and simply talk about \u201cwhat humans should be like\u201d. And that list really shouldn\u2019t be very prescriptive at all, other than to define universal qualities such as egalitarianism, altruism, strength of character, and so forth.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>So I can\u2019t say I have a lot of concrete answers right now. My favorite way of \u201cbeing a man\u201d some days is <a href=\"https://indieweb.social/@jaredwhite/114049028127172049\">simply to poke fun at the whole concept</a>.</p>\n\n<p>At any rate, I appreciated Adam\u2019s video quite a lot, and then immediately reading that Pew study was icing on the cake.</p>",
        "text": "The extreme ends of performative #gender expressions, for both men and women, are truly pits of despair. Because no matter how much of a woman you are as a woman, you can still be \u201cmore woman\u201d\u2014and the same is true for men. You are never man enough. And so you have to be \u201cmore man\u201d and then \u201cmore man\u201d yet again. There\u2019s no end to this Sisyphean loop.\n\nAlas, performative masculinity\u2014particularly its extreme form of fragile masculinity which inevitably leads to toxic masculinity\u2014is quite literally tearing my country \ud83c\uddfa\ud83c\uddf8 apart right now and is infecting business, art, technology, politics, and more across the globe.\n\nA couple of links I want to share with you, the second nicely reinforcing the first.\n\nFirst: one of my favorite video essayists, Adam Conover, produced what I think is one of his best yet titled Elon and Zuck are INSECURE Men. Adam goes right for it, explaining how so many of the bizarro-world activities we see both Elon Musk and Mark Zuckerberg engaging in\u2014even down to the over-the-top \u201cbro\u201d dress code\u2014are in essence flagrant attempts to prove how manly they are. Their fragile masculinity has metastasized into toxic masculinity, and due to the fact they also happen to be multibillionaires with obscene control over vast swaths of digital commerce and communication, their personal crisis unfortunately affect us all.\n\nThe crazy part about all this, as Adam explains and as my next link will prove, is that it doesn\u2019t work! Extreme performative masculinity doesn\u2019t work. Outside of the \u201cbro bubble\u201d and weird far-right echo chambers, nobody is looking to these dudes and thinking \u201cayup, that is the kind of man I aspire to be.\u201d These people aren\u2019t men\u2019s men\u2014truly, a man\u2019s man doesn\u2019t look how they look and act like they act.\n\nThey are fools.\n\nThat\u2019s it. That\u2019s the toot.\n\nSecond: TechCrunch reports on a recent Pew Research Center study which shows that Musk is now viewed unfavorably more than favorably in the U.S.\u2014and Zuck is viewed even more unfavorably, with 67% feeling negatively toward him.\n\n\n  While Zuck may be playing the part of the cool guy, Americans haven\u2019t been fooled by his gold chains or musical ambitions, it seems.\n\n\nYa think?!\n\nLook, there\u2019s no doubt that the present-day issues of masculine culture and what it means to be a man\u2014especially for young men with uncertain job prospects and challenges organically making friends and or meeting potential love interests\u2014can be complex and nuanced. Adam\u2019s video makes that point well. It doesn\u2019t do anyone any good to simply shout \u201cMEN SUCK!\u201d and leave it there. There needs to be real and ongoing work done to help men and to counter the toxic narratives which are dominating out there.\n\nAt the same time, I also get uncomfortable focusing too much on this topic from a \u201cgendered\u201d perspective. Part of me wants to deconstruct gender performance entirely, as I said in a previous post:\n\n\n  My wish is we could spend less time talking about \u201cwhat women should be like\u201d or \u201cwhat men should be like\u201d and simply talk about \u201cwhat humans should be like\u201d. And that list really shouldn\u2019t be very prescriptive at all, other than to define universal qualities such as egalitarianism, altruism, strength of character, and so forth.\n\n\nSo I can\u2019t say I have a lot of concrete answers right now. My favorite way of \u201cbeing a man\u201d some days is simply to poke fun at the whole concept.\n\nAt any rate, I appreciated Adam\u2019s video quite a lot, and then immediately reading that Pew study was icing on the cake."
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at Record Pub

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CSF_01: Three Steps for IndieWeb Cybersecurity

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        "text": "Welcome to my first Cybersecurity Friday (CSF) post. \nAlmost exactly one week ago I experienced (and had to fight & recover from) \na cybersecurity incident. While that\u2019s a much longer story, \nthis post series is focused on sharing tips and incident learnings\nfrom an \n \n #indieweb-centric \n perspective.\n\nSteps for Cybersecurity\n\nHere are the top three steps in order of importance, \nthat you should take ASAP \nto secure your online presence.\n\n\nEmail MFA/2FA. \n  Add multi-factor authentication (MFA) using \n  an actual Authenticator application to all places \n  where you store or check email. \n  Some services call this second factor or two factor authentication (2FA). \n  While checking your email security settings, verify recovery settings:\n  Do not cross-link your emails as recovery methods for each other, \n  and do not use a mobile/cell number for recovery at all.\n\n\nDomain Registrar MFA. \n  Add MFA to your Domain Registrar(s) if you have any. \n  Optionally disable password reset emails if possible (some registrars may allow this).\n\n\nWeb Host MFA.\n  Add MFA to your web hosting service(s) if you have any. \n  This includes both website hosting and any content delivery network (CDN) \n  services you are using for your domains.\n\n\nDo not use a mobile number for MFA, \n  nor a physical/hardware key if you travel internationally.\nThere are very good reasons to avoid doing so. I\u2019ll blog the reasons in another post.\n\n\nThose are my top three recommended cybersecurity steps \nfor protecting your internet presence. \nThat\u2019s it for this week. These are the bare minimum steps to take. \nThere are many more steps you can take to strengthen your personal cybersecurity.\nI will leave you with this for now:\n\n\nEntropy is your friend in security.\n\nGlossary\nGlossary for various terms, phrases, and further reading on each.\ncontent delivery network\nhttps://indieweb.org/content_delivery_network\ncybersecurity\nhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/cybersecurity\ndomain registrar\nhttps://indieweb.org/domain_registrar\nemail recovery\nA method for recovering a service account password \nvia the email account associated with that account. \nSee also: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Password_notification_email\n\nentropy\nhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Entropy_(information_theory)\n\nMFA / 2FA\n\n\nhttps://indieweb.org/multi-factor_authentication sometimes called Two Factor Authentication or \nSecond Factor Authentication\n\nmobile number for MFA\nhttps://indieweb.org/SMS#Criticism\nweb host\nhttps://indieweb.org/web_hosting\n\nSyndicated to: \n IndieNews",
        "html": "<p>\nWelcome to my first Cybersecurity Friday (<abbr>CSF</abbr>) post. \nAlmost exactly one week ago I experienced (and had to fight &amp; recover from) \na cybersecurity incident. While that\u2019s a much longer story, \nthis post series is focused on sharing tips and incident learnings\nfrom an \n <a href=\"https://indieweb.social/tags/indieweb\">\n #<span class=\"p-category\">indieweb</span></a>-centric \n perspective.\n</p>\n<h2>Steps for Cybersecurity</h2>\n<p>\nHere are the top three steps in order of importance, \nthat you should take <abbr title=\"as soon as possible\">ASAP</abbr> \nto secure your online presence.\n</p>\n<ol><li>\n<b>Email MFA/2FA.</b> \n  Add multi-factor authentication (<abbr>MFA</abbr>) using \n  an actual Authenticator application to <em>all</em> places \n  where you store or check email. \n  Some services call this <i>second factor</i> or <i>two factor authentication</i> (<abbr>2FA</abbr>). \n  While checking your email security settings, verify recovery settings:\n  <strong>Do not</strong> cross-link your emails as recovery methods for each other, \n  and <strong>do not</strong> use a mobile/cell number for recovery at all.\n</li>\n<li>\n<b>Domain Registrar MFA.</b> \n  Add MFA to your Domain Registrar(s) if you have any. \n  Optionally disable password reset emails if possible (some registrars may allow this).\n</li>\n<li>\n<b>Web Host MFA.</b>\n  Add MFA to your web hosting service(s) if you have any. \n  This includes both website hosting and any content delivery network (<abbr>CDN</abbr>) \n  services you are using for your domains.\n</li>\n</ol><p>\n<strong>Do not</strong> use a mobile number for MFA, \n  <strong>nor</strong> a physical/hardware key if you travel internationally.\nThere are very good reasons to avoid doing so. I\u2019ll blog the reasons in another post.\n</p>\n<p>\nThose are my top three recommended cybersecurity steps \nfor protecting your internet presence. \nThat\u2019s it for this week. These are the bare minimum steps to take. \nThere are many more steps you can take to strengthen your personal cybersecurity.\nI will leave you with this for now:\n</p>\n<p>\nEntropy is your friend in security.\n</p>\n<h2>Glossary</h2>\n<p>Glossary for various terms, phrases, and further reading on each.</p>\ncontent delivery network\n<a href=\"https://indieweb.org/content_delivery_network\">https://indieweb.org/content_delivery_network</a>\ncybersecurity\n<a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/cybersecurity\">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/cybersecurity</a>\ndomain registrar\n<a href=\"https://indieweb.org/domain_registrar\">https://indieweb.org/domain_registrar</a>\nemail recovery\nA method for recovering a service account password \nvia the email account associated with that account. \nSee also: <a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Password_notification_email\">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Password_notification_email</a>\n\nentropy\n<a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Entropy_(information_theory)\">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Entropy_(information_theory)</a>\n\n<abbr>MFA</abbr> / <abbr>2FA</abbr>\n\n\n<a href=\"https://indieweb.org/multi-factor_authentication\">https://indieweb.org/multi-factor_authentication</a> sometimes called <b>Two Factor Authentication</b> or \n<b>Second Factor Authentication</b>\n\nmobile number for MFA\n<a href=\"https://indieweb.org/SMS#Criticism\">https://indieweb.org/SMS#Criticism</a>\nweb host\n<a href=\"https://indieweb.org/web_hosting\">https://indieweb.org/web_hosting</a>\n<p>\nSyndicated to: \n <a class=\"u-syndication\" href=\"https://news.indieweb.org/en\">IndieNews</a>\n</p>"
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Link: No Joy, It’s the Cars that are Dangerous, Not the Pedestrians

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    "published": "2025-02-20T19:25:07-08:00",
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        "html": "<blockquote>\n  <h2><a href=\"https://portland.citycast.fm/newsletter/2025-02-20?id=portland.c7ea070a-9c7d-4a73-aa11-45d8430b2bff#:~:text=Dangerous%20Pedestrians\"></a></h2>\n\n  <p>\u201cPedestrians crossing the street wherever they like\u2026.&amp; rarely looking up to see if any traffic is on the road. It\u2019s just stupid &amp; lazy, not to mention dangerous. I don\u2019t want to see anyone get hit by a car or be a driver who hits a pedestrian. Suck it up, walkers! Walk yourself to the nearest crosswalk, look both ways &amp; cross when it is safe to do so. Thanks.\u201d \u2014 Hey Portland reader Joy M.</p>\n\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>As a pedestrian who regularly crosses streets and not always at crosswalks, I am here to inform you I am not stupid, nor lazy, nor dangerous.</p>\n\n<p><strong>Automobiles are dangerous.</strong></p>\n\n<p>Thankfully, <a href=\"https://jaredwhite.com/tag/portland\">#Portland</a> <em>does</em> have a culture in many areas of town (more so near city center, less so in the outer suburbs) where drivers are kind to pedestrians who are about to step out into the street, and they come to a safe stop to let people pass. I\u2019m proud that our city has a thriving <a href=\"https://jaredwhite.com/tag/micromobility\">#micromobility</a> scene with bikes, scooters, and other human-scale vehicles of all sorts sharing space with cars.</p>\n\n<p>If it were up to me, I\u2019d close off <em>many dozens of streets</em> in and around city center and create a large number of additional pedestrianized urban spaces. We have some already, but <em>far</em> too few when you look at comparable cities in Europe and elsewhere. Hopefully with the new 2025 leadership elected to city council, we\u2019ll see progress on this front.</p>\n\n<p><strong>P.S. Suck it up, Joy!</strong></p>",
        "text": "\u201cPedestrians crossing the street wherever they like\u2026.& rarely looking up to see if any traffic is on the road. It\u2019s just stupid & lazy, not to mention dangerous. I don\u2019t want to see anyone get hit by a car or be a driver who hits a pedestrian. Suck it up, walkers! Walk yourself to the nearest crosswalk, look both ways & cross when it is safe to do so. Thanks.\u201d \u2014 Hey Portland reader Joy M.\n\n\n\nAs a pedestrian who regularly crosses streets and not always at crosswalks, I am here to inform you I am not stupid, nor lazy, nor dangerous.\n\nAutomobiles are dangerous.\n\nThankfully, #Portland does have a culture in many areas of town (more so near city center, less so in the outer suburbs) where drivers are kind to pedestrians who are about to step out into the street, and they come to a safe stop to let people pass. I\u2019m proud that our city has a thriving #micromobility scene with bikes, scooters, and other human-scale vehicles of all sorts sharing space with cars.\n\nIf it were up to me, I\u2019d close off many dozens of streets in and around city center and create a large number of additional pedestrianized urban spaces. We have some already, but far too few when you look at comparable cities in Europe and elsewhere. Hopefully with the new 2025 leadership elected to city council, we\u2019ll see progress on this front.\n\nP.S. Suck it up, Joy!"
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    "url": "https://jaredwhite.com/20250219/moments",
    "published": "2025-02-19T17:23:37-08:00",
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        "html": "<p>In the midst of going through my mom Deborah\u2019s old papers, I found a typed-out poem of sorts attributed to an anonymous \u201c85 year old woman\u201d. I appreciated the sentiment, and I wondered what it meant to my mom\u2014who unfortunately never got to live to the ripe old age of 85.</p>\n\n<p>I was about to post it here without further comment, but then I realized <em>Aha! I have the Internet! I can search for a phrase from the poem and perhaps learn more about it!</em></p>\n\n<p>And that\u2019s when I discovered\u2026<strong>this wasn\u2019t written by an 85 year old woman at all.</strong> \ud83d\ude31</p>\n\n<p>At first it seemed to be attributed to one \u201cNadine Stair\u201d so I thought maybe she was the 85 year old woman. But then <a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moments_(poem)\">I found this Wikipedia page</a> about the poem, titled <em>Moments</em>, which explains that it was originally published under the title <em>I\u2019d Pick More Daises</em> and written by Don Herold, who was a humorist and cartoonist who\u2026also didn\u2019t live to 85 but died at the age of 76. And there was never any Nadine Stair\u2014that name was invented so the poem could be republished in a slightly modified form for a female audience.</p>\n\n<p>There\u2019s also a version in Spanish wrongly attributed to Argentine writer Jorge Luis Borges.</p>\n\n<p><strong>I think maybe I now regret looking this up on the Internet.</strong> \ud83d\ude02</p>\n\n<p>At any rate, here is the version as I received it. I hope you enjoy this poem <em>not</em> written by an 85 year old woman! <a href=\"https://jaredwhite.com/tag/obscureartists\">#obscureartists</a> <a href=\"https://jaredwhite.com/tag/quote\">#quote</a></p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIf I had to live my life over, I\u2019d dare to make more mistakes next time. I\u2019d relax. I would limber up. I would be sillier than I have been this trip. I would take fewer things seriously. I would take more chances. I would take more trips. I would climb more mountains, swim more rivers. I would eat more ice cream and less beans. I would perhaps have more\nactual troubles but I\u2019d have fewer imaginary ones.</p>\n\n<p>\u201cYou see, I\u2019m one of those people who live seriously and sanely hour by hour, day after day. Oh, I\u2019ve had my moments, and if I had it to do over again, I\u2019d have more of them. In fact, I\u2019d try to have nothing else, just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day. I\u2019ve been one of these persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat, and a parachute. If I had it to do again, I would travel lighter than I have.</p>\n\n<p>\u201cIf I had to live my life over, I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way in the Fall. I would go to more dances. I would ride more merry-go-rounds. I would pick more daises.\u201d</p>",
        "text": "In the midst of going through my mom Deborah\u2019s old papers, I found a typed-out poem of sorts attributed to an anonymous \u201c85 year old woman\u201d. I appreciated the sentiment, and I wondered what it meant to my mom\u2014who unfortunately never got to live to the ripe old age of 85.\n\nI was about to post it here without further comment, but then I realized Aha! I have the Internet! I can search for a phrase from the poem and perhaps learn more about it!\n\nAnd that\u2019s when I discovered\u2026this wasn\u2019t written by an 85 year old woman at all. \ud83d\ude31\n\nAt first it seemed to be attributed to one \u201cNadine Stair\u201d so I thought maybe she was the 85 year old woman. But then I found this Wikipedia page about the poem, titled Moments, which explains that it was originally published under the title I\u2019d Pick More Daises and written by Don Herold, who was a humorist and cartoonist who\u2026also didn\u2019t live to 85 but died at the age of 76. And there was never any Nadine Stair\u2014that name was invented so the poem could be republished in a slightly modified form for a female audience.\n\nThere\u2019s also a version in Spanish wrongly attributed to Argentine writer Jorge Luis Borges.\n\nI think maybe I now regret looking this up on the Internet. \ud83d\ude02\n\nAt any rate, here is the version as I received it. I hope you enjoy this poem not written by an 85 year old woman! #obscureartists #quote\n\n\n\n\u201cIf I had to live my life over, I\u2019d dare to make more mistakes next time. I\u2019d relax. I would limber up. I would be sillier than I have been this trip. I would take fewer things seriously. I would take more chances. I would take more trips. I would climb more mountains, swim more rivers. I would eat more ice cream and less beans. I would perhaps have more\nactual troubles but I\u2019d have fewer imaginary ones.\n\n\u201cYou see, I\u2019m one of those people who live seriously and sanely hour by hour, day after day. Oh, I\u2019ve had my moments, and if I had it to do over again, I\u2019d have more of them. In fact, I\u2019d try to have nothing else, just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day. I\u2019ve been one of these persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat, and a parachute. If I had it to do again, I would travel lighter than I have.\n\n\u201cIf I had to live my life over, I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way in the Fall. I would go to more dances. I would ride more merry-go-rounds. I would pick more daises.\u201d"
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        "text": "Trying to choose which color tile to use for the backsplash... Kitchen cabinets and countertop are locked in."
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        "name": "Aaron Parecki",
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        "text": "Today the crew hung the picture rails everywhere. It will eventually be painted the same color as the walls. I'm looking forward to never having to punch holes in the walls again!"
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    "author": {
        "type": "card",
        "name": "Aaron Parecki",
        "url": "https://aaronparecki.com/",
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    "url": "https://cleverdevil.io/2025/-the-cleverdeck-is-alive-enclosure-design-underway",
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        "text": "\u00a0\n\n\u00a0",
        "html": "<a href=\"https://cleverdevil.io/2025/-the-cleverdeck-is-alive-enclosure-design-underway\"></a>\n            \n                <p>\u00a0</p><p>\u00a0</p>"
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    "author": {
        "type": "card",
        "name": "Jonathan LaCour",
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Link: Gosh Darn Those Face-Eating Leopards!

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    "type": "entry",
    "author": {
        "name": "Jared White",
        "url": "https://jaredwhite.com/",
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    "url": "https://jaredwhite.com/links/20250217/gosh-darn-those-face-eating-leopards",
    "published": "2025-02-17T22:10:23-08:00",
    "content": {
        "html": "<blockquote>\n  <h2><a href=\"https://newrepublic.com/post/191614/trump-supporters-regret-vote\"></a></h2>\n\n  <p>\u201cWhen we said safer borders, I thought he was thinking \u2018let\u2019s stop the drugs from coming into the country,\u2019\u201d Trump voter Staci White said. \u201cI didn\u2019t know he was going to start raiding places. Now I\u2019m like: \u2018Dang, why didn\u2019t I just pick Kamala?\u2019\u201d</p>\n\n</blockquote>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/shorts/9LtSMVzCJ6Y\">Sing it with me:</a></p>\n\n<p>\ud83c\udfb6 <strong>I never thought the leopards would eat my face!</strong> \ud83c\udfb6</p>\n\n<p>Look, it\u2019s easy (and more than a little cathartic) to make fun of these people who voted for Trump\u2014not talking about in 2016 or even 2020 <em>but in 2024 for Pete\u2019s sake!</em>\u2014and then are simply flabbergasted and dumbfounded that <strong>Trump has gleefully gone to war with his own people for personal gain and unchecked power</strong>.</p>\n\n<p>But I also think it\u2019s worth noting that we are in the midst of <strong>an all-out information war</strong>. In the link directly above, the farmer claims he was told Project 2025 wasn\u2019t actually Trump\u2019s platform. And in the quoted article, the woman says she didn\u2019t know Trump planed on conducting raids.</p>\n\n<p>Guess what? <strong>I believe them!</strong> And while I won\u2019t lose any sleep over them being ridiculed online for their horrible taste in <a href=\"https://jaredwhite.com/tag/politics\">#politics</a>, I do think <em>we should be putting the vast majority of our efforts</em> into combatting this scourge of misinformation and disinformation that caused Kamala Harris to lose the 2024 election. Yes, that is my contention: her loss was <em>almost entirely due</em> to <strong>hundreds of millions of Americans being repeatedly and outrageously lied to</strong>. I\u2019m not implying I think the Trumpy MAGA base is misinformed (they\u2019re truly the bad guys), but I\u2019m saying the people who are considered \u201cmoderate\u201d or not super engaged in politics at all got fed a steaming pile of horseshit.</p>\n\n<p>If the Democratic Party and progressive activists/journalists/policy-makers can\u2019t get a real and lasting handle on this war before the next national election, I fear it may be too late to turn this ship around. <strong>The window of positive change is narrowing rapidly.</strong> And the time to act was yesterday.</p>",
        "text": "\u201cWhen we said safer borders, I thought he was thinking \u2018let\u2019s stop the drugs from coming into the country,\u2019\u201d Trump voter Staci White said. \u201cI didn\u2019t know he was going to start raiding places. Now I\u2019m like: \u2018Dang, why didn\u2019t I just pick Kamala?\u2019\u201d\n\n\n\nSing it with me:\n\n\ud83c\udfb6 I never thought the leopards would eat my face! \ud83c\udfb6\n\nLook, it\u2019s easy (and more than a little cathartic) to make fun of these people who voted for Trump\u2014not talking about in 2016 or even 2020 but in 2024 for Pete\u2019s sake!\u2014and then are simply flabbergasted and dumbfounded that Trump has gleefully gone to war with his own people for personal gain and unchecked power.\n\nBut I also think it\u2019s worth noting that we are in the midst of an all-out information war. In the link directly above, the farmer claims he was told Project 2025 wasn\u2019t actually Trump\u2019s platform. And in the quoted article, the woman says she didn\u2019t know Trump planed on conducting raids.\n\nGuess what? I believe them! And while I won\u2019t lose any sleep over them being ridiculed online for their horrible taste in #politics, I do think we should be putting the vast majority of our efforts into combatting this scourge of misinformation and disinformation that caused Kamala Harris to lose the 2024 election. Yes, that is my contention: her loss was almost entirely due to hundreds of millions of Americans being repeatedly and outrageously lied to. I\u2019m not implying I think the Trumpy MAGA base is misinformed (they\u2019re truly the bad guys), but I\u2019m saying the people who are considered \u201cmoderate\u201d or not super engaged in politics at all got fed a steaming pile of horseshit.\n\nIf the Democratic Party and progressive activists/journalists/policy-makers can\u2019t get a real and lasting handle on this war before the next national election, I fear it may be too late to turn this ship around. The window of positive change is narrowing rapidly. And the time to act was yesterday."
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    "type": "entry",
    "published": "2025-02-17 14:30-0800",
    "url": "https://gregorlove.com/2025/02/i-watched-a-video/",
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        "text": "I watched a video about the book 1001 Albums You Must Hear Before You Die and someone built a web app to help you listen to them all with a daily recommendation. I think I\u2019ll give it a shot as part of my #TodaysAlbum project.",
        "html": "<p>I watched a video about the book <a href=\"https://youtu.be/4AHQBBUPt-w\">1001 Albums You Must Hear Before You Die</a> and someone built a web app to help you listen to them all with a <a href=\"https://1001albumsgenerator.com/\">daily recommendation</a>. I think I\u2019ll give it a shot as part of my #TodaysAlbum project.</p>"
    },
    "author": {
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        "name": "gRegor Morrill",
        "url": "https://gregorlove.com/",
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It’s Not a Conspiracy Theory If They’re Doing It in Broad Daylight

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    "url": "https://jaredwhite.com/20250216/not-a-conspiracy-theory",
    "published": "2025-02-16T19:17:24-08:00",
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        "html": "<p>My kids are with me every other weekend. My youngest sort of just tunes out anything news-related, but my teen is a news junkie and always wants me to \u201cspill the tea\u201d. And let me tell you: the top stories being covered by <strong>DNN</strong> (Daddy News Network) these days are <strong>friggin\u2019 nuts</strong>. \ud83d\ude35\u200d\ud83d\udcab</p>\n\n<p>Every time I\u2019m having to catch my teen up on a mere fraction of what\u2019s been going on in the past ~12 days, it\u2019s hard for me to believe the words spilling out of my mouth. It all sounds <em>batshit crazy</em>. I feel like I\u2019m spouting off insane conspiracy theories. It sounds like speculative fiction written in a fever dream by an author who\u2019s been dropping acid much too frequently.</p>\n\n<p><strong>Department of Government Efficiency</strong>, or D.O.G.E, because <em>DOGE</em> ha ha get it? ha ha. That doesn\u2019t sound like real life. That sounds like something you\u2019d come across in a particularly screwy episode of <em>Helluva Boss</em>.</p>\n\n<p>\u201cAccidentally\u201d firing hundreds of people overseeing the <strong>NUCLEAR ARSENAL</strong> of the United States of America\u2026and then struggling to figure out <em>HOW TO CONTACT SOME OF THEM TO UN-FIRE THEM??!!?!</em></p>\n\n<p>This wouldn\u2019t even end up in a work of fiction. The editor would take a red pen to it because this stuff\u2019s not only far too outlandish, it sounds stupidly stupid and dumb, dumb, dumb. <em>So dumb.</em></p>\n\n<p>I keep telling my teen this isn\u2019t <a href=\"https://jaredwhite.com/tag/politics\">#politics</a> as usual under any circumstances. <strong>I apologize, over and over again, that they\u2019re coming of age</strong> in an age of sheer lunacy, idiocy, and fashy buffoonery\u2026that the optimism of youthful Millennials believing they were ushering in a 21st Century filled with technological wonders, abundant resources, and pluralistic freedom in a spirit of inclusion had quickly\u2014shockingly\u2014given way to, well, the usual suspects of the dregs of history: <strong>Greed. Lust for power. The strong preying on the weak. Mass propaganda. Regressivism.</strong></p>\n\n<p>Astonishingly, my teen isn\u2019t phased. They\u2019ve been through a lot already. You have no idea (and I don\u2019t feel it\u2019s my story to tell). But they\u2019re resilient, they\u2019re <strong>out</strong>, and oh yeah they\u2019re proud\u2014they were born a <em>fighter</em>.</p>\n\n<p>Yes I\u2019m a dad who is absolutely in awe of his children, and as a result my perspective is rapidly shifting. I no longer feel like I\u2019m in this fight to restore dignity, secular humanism, and the rule of law to America because that\u2019s what I desire for myself\u2014I\u2019m in this fight for my <a href=\"https://jaredwhite.com/tag/family\">#family</a>. <strong>My kids deserve better than the world we\u2019re handing them.</strong> And I\u2019d better close with that because if I keep going <em>the tears they will flow</em>.</p>\n\n<p><strong>Don\u2019t give up. RESIST.</strong> \u270a</p>",
        "text": "My kids are with me every other weekend. My youngest sort of just tunes out anything news-related, but my teen is a news junkie and always wants me to \u201cspill the tea\u201d. And let me tell you: the top stories being covered by DNN (Daddy News Network) these days are friggin\u2019 nuts. \ud83d\ude35\u200d\ud83d\udcab\n\nEvery time I\u2019m having to catch my teen up on a mere fraction of what\u2019s been going on in the past ~12 days, it\u2019s hard for me to believe the words spilling out of my mouth. It all sounds batshit crazy. I feel like I\u2019m spouting off insane conspiracy theories. It sounds like speculative fiction written in a fever dream by an author who\u2019s been dropping acid much too frequently.\n\nDepartment of Government Efficiency, or D.O.G.E, because DOGE ha ha get it? ha ha. That doesn\u2019t sound like real life. That sounds like something you\u2019d come across in a particularly screwy episode of Helluva Boss.\n\n\u201cAccidentally\u201d firing hundreds of people overseeing the NUCLEAR ARSENAL of the United States of America\u2026and then struggling to figure out HOW TO CONTACT SOME OF THEM TO UN-FIRE THEM??!!?!\n\nThis wouldn\u2019t even end up in a work of fiction. The editor would take a red pen to it because this stuff\u2019s not only far too outlandish, it sounds stupidly stupid and dumb, dumb, dumb. So dumb.\n\nI keep telling my teen this isn\u2019t #politics as usual under any circumstances. I apologize, over and over again, that they\u2019re coming of age in an age of sheer lunacy, idiocy, and fashy buffoonery\u2026that the optimism of youthful Millennials believing they were ushering in a 21st Century filled with technological wonders, abundant resources, and pluralistic freedom in a spirit of inclusion had quickly\u2014shockingly\u2014given way to, well, the usual suspects of the dregs of history: Greed. Lust for power. The strong preying on the weak. Mass propaganda. Regressivism.\n\nAstonishingly, my teen isn\u2019t phased. They\u2019ve been through a lot already. You have no idea (and I don\u2019t feel it\u2019s my story to tell). But they\u2019re resilient, they\u2019re out, and oh yeah they\u2019re proud\u2014they were born a fighter.\n\nYes I\u2019m a dad who is absolutely in awe of his children, and as a result my perspective is rapidly shifting. I no longer feel like I\u2019m in this fight to restore dignity, secular humanism, and the rule of law to America because that\u2019s what I desire for myself\u2014I\u2019m in this fight for my #family. My kids deserve better than the world we\u2019re handing them. And I\u2019d better close with that because if I keep going the tears they will flow.\n\nDon\u2019t give up. RESIST. \u270a"
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Going with Notion for now

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    "summary": "\ud83d\udcd7 Want to read How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy by Jenny Odell ISBN: 9781612198552",
    "url": "https://martymcgui.re/2025/02/16/091822/",
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        "name": "Marty McGuire",
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    "type": "entry",
    "published": "2025-02-15T17:56:39-08:00",
    "url": "https://aaronparecki.com/2025/02/15/14/sms",
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        "security",
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        "2fa"
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        "text": "Chase sends 8-digit 2fa SMS codes, which seems excessive compared to the 6 that most other places use, but even weirder is that the first digit of them has always been the same, effectively making it a 7 digit code. Anyone know what's up with that?"
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    "author": {
        "type": "card",
        "name": "Aaron Parecki",
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at Kayo's Ramen Bar

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    "name": "at Kayo's Ramen Bar",
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        "type": "card",
        "name": "Aaron Parecki",
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    "checkin": {
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        "name": "Kayo's Ramen Bar",
        "latitude": "45.550467",
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{
    "type": "entry",
    "published": "2025-02-13T13:05:00-08:00",
    "url": "https://aaronparecki.com/2025/02/13/11/snow",
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        "365"
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    "content": {
        "text": "First snow of the year!"
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    "author": {
        "type": "card",
        "name": "Aaron Parecki",
        "url": "https://aaronparecki.com/",
        "photo": "https://aaronparecki.com/images/profile.jpg"
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    "type": "entry",
    "published": "2025-02-11T16:00:00-08:00",
    "url": "https://aaronparecki.com/2025/02/11/15/",
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    "content": {
        "text": "The painters finished!"
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    "author": {
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